I just spent 45 minutes on hold today in an attempt to renew an ad that I usually have posted on a website for pro dommes.  So if any of my interested subs wonder, "Hmmm, why isn't Mistress Aubrey still listed on this particular ad website?" I wanted you dears to know that I might not bother staying on hold yet again.  I might just let the ad expire since it requires such patience to pay for it to be renewed....

This caused me to think about how I have evolved as a pro domme over the nearly five years that I've been a pro domme.  As we all know, some dommes come and go quickly, like a flash in the pan.

For me, pro domination is a joy and privilege, so I have no plans to go away from professional sessioning.  I would miss it a great deal and besides, getting paid to have FUN is just too good to pass up!!!!

However, I've noticed that I have indeed changed in my attitude towards new clients or clients who start to forget that the domme is the one in charge.

While I have major, inner enthusiasm for domination, I just don't have the patience that I once had with clients who I do not know who call and wish to talk, talk, talk.  I often simply don't return phone calls any more, if the call is from someone new who simply says, "Hello, I saw your website call me back."

Or someone who just doesn't seem to have the approach that would be conducive to my being dominant and his role of being submissive.

It is an odd thing, but as a female dominant, I truly do have a sixth sense about where a man is coming from.  I can sense  a fake submissive miles away.  If a man is a switch, that is fine -- as long as submissiveness is truly a part of his nature, I can understand if he also has a dominant side.  I respect and understand that.....

But if a man does not genuinely have submissive tendences inside his true heart, I simply do not want to deal with him.

It's all very understandable.

But I realized that I really have changed, over time, and am harder to reach -- for new people, not for those who have sessioned with me before -- and often simply do not respond to total strangers any more.

For me to love domination, it must be driven by a true sense of the female as dominant.  No game-playing.   No under-estimating of mistress.  Under-estimating my intelligence is a common male problem and has happened since my childhood, so I do have patience with the man who simply is not paying attention -- up to a point.

So this is a more sober email than some of my other blog entries, because I feel a shift in my work as a pro domme.  I don't care about sessioning just for the sake of it.  If the submissive man does not somehow find a way to appeal to me, he has a choice of many other pro dommes, many of whom are probably quite enthusiastic about domination.  I advise any man who does not feel like the right "vibe" with me to pursue other dommes.

I'm not a bitch.  But I'm a bit like a man in many elements of my personality (while still being a hetero woman, so go figure how nature gifted me a bit weirdly, oh well!).  One of the things I really enjoy is when a submissive man gets that sense of my male side, because it can be rather weird or intoxicating for a man to realize he is with a woman who is just like him, in her mind -- hard enough, tough enough, clearly spoken without emotional baggage -- and yet, teases him as only a woman can.

Mistress is extremely thankful for all the good clients I've dominated over the years.  But I am shifting.  I am pulling back a bit from having a marketed, advertising public presence, from strangers, from anything that requires too much patience on my part, because I don't really need it.  I have been fortunate to be busy and contented.  It's simply not as easy to get an appointment with me as it once was, and that's simply how things are.

Life is really, really good.  I value my time and experience and do not parcel it out without forethought.

I hope all the good submissive men who know Me are having  a WONDERFUL summer!  I've been seeing some of you this summer and enjoying disciplining your sore, red asses -- time flies!  Take care--

Mistress Aubrey Enjoying the Bounty of This Life